Sammie maintained honor’s status throughout her college career, but senioritis bogged her down. Lack of motivation and lethargy threatened her academic goal of graduating cum laude. Her friends Julia and Rhoda helped her set deadlines and held her accountable in completing her assignments. Thankfully, Sammie finished strong due to the help of her friends.

A good friend will help you achieve your goals. Whether trying to lose weight, learning a new skill, writing a book, or a million other dreams, friends offer support, encouragement, and a kick in the pants when you need one. However, all Christian friends share a common goal—becoming more like Christ. (Philippians 3:12-14)

Godly friends encourage you to grow in your faith.

“But you, dear friends, must build each other up in your most holy faith…” Jude 1:20 NLT

What does that look like? Images of cloistered nuns devoting all their time to service might leap to mind. But that’s not what I intend. Friendships vary as much as the unique women who enter them. You’ll find fitness enthusiasts working out together, crafters bending over glue guns, and geeks, like me, debating fandoms. As different as those relationships might be, godly friendships share some basic qualities.

  • While not every conversation should be about Christ, he should come up on occasion in conversations between believers. When you are not talking about faith, your conversation should still reflect your faith. When out for coffee with a friend, you can’t talk about how much you love Jesus one minute and, then, verbally rip apart your coworker the next. “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” Ephesians 4:29
  • Like your conversations, the things you do as friends should reflect your faith. Whether bowling or attending a worship concert, you should conduct yourselves in a Christlike manner. “We should help others do what is right and build them up in the Lord.” Romans 15:2
  • Pray for your friends to grow stronger in their faith and identity in Christ. We are often quick to pray for our friends’ physical needs, but we also need to pray for their spiritual needs. “So we have not stopped praying for you since we first heard about you. We ask God to give you complete knowledge of his will and to give you spiritual wisdom and understanding.” Colossians 1:9

Becoming more like Christ is the goal of all believers. Achieving it is difficult without support. Thankfully, our godly friends can encourage and assist us every step of the way.